Love Doesn’t Come or Go — It’s Always Here

Nataliia Bohdanova

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We are used to thinking that falling in love is a reaction to a specific person. You meet them, you like them, you fall in love. But what if it’s not so? But what if falling in love is actually a separate phenomenon? What if we don’t so much fall for a specific person, but rather, seek someone to project this feeling onto?
What if falling in love is an energy that exists in the Universe independently of us? It doesn’t come or go, it’s always here. It’s just that sometimes we have access to it, and sometimes we don’t. And when this access opens, we can “put on” this falling in love of ours on a specific person, like a shirt?

Why can’t anyone fit the bill?

But we are not ready to try this shell on everyone. Certain parameters must coincide, even if they are not always realized. A person’s taste may be different, but some selection mechanisms work independently of logic. Sometimes little things are enough — intonation of voice, look, gesture — and the shell suits exactly this person.

Passion isn’t just about the person you’re attracted to; it’s also about your own mindset and how open you are to that energy.

Sometimes watching a movie triggers this energy within you. It’s more than just fancying the protagonist, it’s being consumed by passion! Remember Titanic with DiCaprio? What female viewer didn’t convince herself she was smitten? Or perhaps you have a romantic dream where you fall in love with a coworker you previously never even noticed. Post-dream, these emotions linger, crafting an illusion of genuine love. In such moments, it becomes especially easy to fall for someone real — because the feeling is already inside you, and all that remains is to direct it toward someone.

If that’s the case, then love itself is primary, while the object of that love is secondary. You experience the feeling first and then find someone to project it onto. And if there is no reciprocity, just transfer this feeling to another object?

What’s to stop us from directing feelings of love towards anyone?

If love truly has endless bounds, is it not possible to ‘don’ this armor of affection for any individual?

Despite its seeming randomness, it appears there are certain parameters dictating who can truly receive our loving energy:

• Subconscious clichés — our history, our encounters, our convictions about love.
• Energetic correlation — an unseen harmony between individuals.
• A readiness to accept this energy — when one’s emotional state is heightened, bonding with the current becomes more effortless.

Do We Hold the Reins of This Procedure?

Assuming love is an energy current, a bundle that we may steer, is it possible for us to consciously decide its flow direction?

Certain individuals have perfected the skill of redirecting their affection — actors who deeply inhabit a role, authors who feel emotions via their creations, or people who swiftly succumb to new infatuations. This isn’t mere chance — it represents an adaptable view of love.

If that holds factuality, then we could:

• Either block or unblock our avenue to this energy.
• Deliberately choose its direction.
• Grasp that love isn’t predestined — it’s a mechanism, and we are dynamic contributors.

What If Love Is Freedom?

Contemplate this — What if love isn’t an elusive rarity but a constant energy?What if far more love is available to you than you ever imagined?
You can don this “shell of love”, experiment with it on various individuals. But here’s the crux — you needn’t worry that love may elude you. Its presence is perpetual. The only question is when you will connect to it.

This message isn’t tempting you towards recklessness. If aspects didn’t align perfectly today, it simply means tomorrow offers the possibility of something even better.